The Weekly Stay
Honest, research-backed essays for couples who'd rather choose than cancel. No fluff, no listicles, no self-help-industrial-complex.
Figure out what's actually wrong before you try to fix it.
Almost every fight we've ever watched up close lives inside one of four words: Commitment, Communication, Connection, Contempt. Here's how to tell which one is yours.
ReadNobody wakes up one morning and decides to become roommates. It happens by a thousand small surrenders. Here's how to spot it and what to do about it.
ReadPractical, evidence-based ways to rebuild what drifted.
Emotional affairs are often more destabilizing than physical ones because they involve the part of the relationship that was supposed to be exclusive: intimacy. Here's a real path back.
ReadTherapy isn't always the answer, and a workbook isn't always a shortcut. Here's an honest comparison from someone who's used both.
ReadA sexless marriage isn't usually a sex problem. It's a closeness problem with a sex symptom. Here's how to address the actual thing.
ReadWhat 40+ years of marriage science actually shows.
John Gottman found that the smallest behavior in a marriage is also the most predictive: how often you turn toward your partner's smallest invitations.
ReadDivorce rates for people 50+ have doubled since 1990 even as overall divorce rates have fallen. Here's what's driving it and what protects against it.
ReadStable couples don't fight less than unstable couples. They fight in a measurably different ratio. Here's the number that matters.
ReadContempt is the single strongest predictor of divorce in 40 years of marital research. Here's what it actually looks like, why it's so corrosive, and how to walk it back.
ReadIt's not chemistry. It's not romance. It's not even agreement on the big things. It's something much smaller, and much more boring.
ReadFor when the question is whether to stay at all.
Some signs mean the marriage is genuinely done. Others mean you're both exhausted and nobody's been honest in eighteen months. Here's how to tell which is which.
ReadWe started talking about marriage the way we talk about streaming services. Cancel anytime. Pause it. Try the new one. And then we wondered why nobody felt safe.
ReadForget the quizzes that tell you what you want to hear. These seven questions are the ones a good therapist would actually ask you.
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