What this is, and what it isn't.

Stayvorced is a writing project with a point of view. We believe most marriages don't end in fire — they end in drift. And we think that drift is often workable, if couples have the language and the tools and a shred of stubborn hope.

That belief is the whole project. But it comes with some honest limits we want to be upfront about.

This is not legal advice

We are not lawyers. Nothing on this site — articles, the Stay Score, the workbook, emails — is legal advice about divorce, separation, custody, finances, or anything else. Family law varies wildly by country, state, and situation. If you're making decisions about your marriage that have legal weight, please talk to a qualified attorney in your jurisdiction.

This is not therapy

We are not therapists, counselors, or clinicians. The Stay Score is not a diagnosis. The workbook is not a treatment plan. If you're struggling, a good couples therapist is worth more than anything we'll ever publish. We mean that sincerely.

If divorce is right for you, we honor that

Stayvorced isn't anti-divorce. Some marriages should end. Some already have, in every way that matters. We're not in the business of trapping anyone in a relationship that's wrong for them.

What we are in the business of: helping couples figure out — honestly, before the lawyers — whether the real problem is something fixable. Communication. Drift. The same fight on a loop. A season of being roommates instead of partners. Often it is. Sometimes it isn't. Either answer is a real answer.

If you're unsafe, please get help now

Stayvorced is not for marriages with abuse — physical, emotional, financial, or otherwise. It's not for active addiction without treatment. It's not a crisis service. If you or your partner are in danger, please contact local emergency services, a domestic violence hotline in your country, or a qualified professional. That comes first. Always.

This is not a religious project

We're not making a religious argument for staying married. People of any faith, or none, are welcome here. We just think choosing the same person on purpose is countercultural enough to deserve its own word.

Outcomes

We make no promises about what reading our work or doing our workbook will do for your specific relationship. Marriages are made of two whole people with their own histories. We can offer language and structure. The work is yours.

Questions about any of this? Get in touch.